marriage conference 2017

​assalamu alaykum/peace to one and all

if youve been following me for a while, you would know that last year round about this time there were a couple of posts regarding the marriage conference that was coming up at the sandton convention centre.

this year its back again and probably for the last time in johannesburg. its much bigger and far better than it was last year with a whole load of extra items added to the itenary.

im usually not one to attend seminars and conferences etc but since i was involved last year, i attended the conference and id like you all to know that i dont regret it in the least.

it was by far an amazing experience. the amount learnt in just that oneday was unbelievable. the speakers were phenomenal and the things they brought to light touched my heart in a way il never be able to express.

although there were thousands of people, it was as if the speakers were speaking directly to me. 

whether you are already married, divorced, widowed, a single parent, looking to get married or have been married for years… theres so much to learn for every category of people.

marriage is a sunnah of our beloved nabi sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam. it completes half our faith, however its no secret how many of our muslim marriages are failing today and the number is increasing everyday. attending the marriage conference will not only help you better ur marriage, but will teach you about your own self as it has taught me about myself.

as a married person, we often want to change our spouse when the problem actually lies within ourselves. we cannot change another person but we can change our outlook on things. we can learn who we really are. and if there was one lesson that i brought home last year…it is this!

so if you missed out last year… you have one more opportunity to attend this year…

the marriage conference 2017 will inshallah be held on the 22 july 2017 at the sandton convention centre.

theres a whole lot to look forward to such as inspirational talks, an expo, ilm arts festival, youth zone, kids zone and the list goes on.

follow me on instagram for more updates regarding what the line up will be like… INSTA @dvinetreats

to book your tickets, there are different prices for different tickets and all onfo may be found on the following link…

or to view a snippet of last years program, feel free to click on this link….

hope to see you all there as there will also be a bloggers corner….

hurry and book your tickets before they are sold out!!!!


bibi ayesha


Is there ever really a thing called love? Or is it something imaginary..

If there is…how do you get love? 

I think it doesnt exist…because if it does… why are some deprived of it while others have it in abundance?

Love is far fetched.

i wonder if il ever know what it feels like to be loved… truly, madly, deeply…

giving your life for someone clearly doesnt bring you love..

respecting someone doesnt giv you love…

sacrificing and having patience doesnt give you love…

effort doesnt give you love…

so what does?

does it make you feel whole? Complete?

marriage definitely doesnt give you love…

marriage is just convenience for the one and torture and oppression to the other..

or am i understanding it wrong.

are there others that feel the way i do?

or is it just me in the entire world that has this all wrong?i have tried everything to feel loved… but i still dont feel it.

Maybe i should stop trying and it will find me…

or maybe i should just stop expecting love completely…

hurt is definitely real…

pain is real

betrayal and mistrust is real…

but love?

its imaginary…

The nights

it may hurt the most at night….

The loneliness will catch up with you.

Its the time when families are sitting around and having their ‘time’ while you are left alone with your thoughts.

When everyone is asleep and you have to lay alone with your heart aches… knowing that not a soul can take your pain away.. no one can feel your pain. No one understanda how hard it might be. But its okay…

Nothing…. not even heartache and difficulty lasts forever. Eventually it will pass and better things will open up.

Its in those times we need to pour our hearts out to Allah for only He will ever understand. 

We dont follow His rules and laws… His open commands… yet He is always there for us.

He loves us u conditionally and rewards us when we dont deserve.

As hard as it may be… even though we are at our lowest…. be strong… get up and pray… our prayers will be answered when we cry to him at night.

Because in His eyes… its more than okay to cry… its more than okay to show how weak and vulnerable we are. He will never judge us or take avantage of us.

Be strong at night…

Pray at night…

Cry to Him at night…

And hope for the greatest at night….

The stillness is a blessing… not a punishment

its okay to cry…

You dont always have to be strong… you dont always have to pretend to the world that everything is okay when its not..

You dont hAve to always have a smiling face…

You are allowed to let loose..allowed to cry… it shows that you are human… that you feel emotion.. that you feel pain.

Crying is a step towards recovery.

It takes the weight off your shoulders and makes you feel lighter.

Enough of suffering in silence.. enough of pretending that you have a perfect and normal life… when you dont. When your life has been nothing but misery.

You have been betrayed, hurt, abused, degraded, belittled, slandered, oppressed…

Those are things that are bound to make you hurt..

Pain makes us stronger.

Difficulties mould us into who we will be.

Downhills eventually take you to better places ..

A person who goes through difficulty learns from life. Becomes wiser and can face anything.

Cry if you must but lift your head up again and move forward.

No one is worth your life or your pain.

Any person who hurts you, was never meant to be with you in the first place.

You will find your happiness within yourself.. not in anyone else.

Nothing you have ever done goes unnoticed in the eyes of Allah.

Allah rewards every single deed.

Be patient for the good times are only beginning.

Its time to say goodbye to hardship and pain.

Let others call you selfish but you have wasted far too much time being selfless.

Its time to care for yourself. Love yourself. Pick yourself up and finally be happy

you are worth so much more

To every human being out there in the world……

To every woman who has ever been oppressed, abused….whether emotionally, physically, verbally…. i feel your pain.

You are hurting and feel stuck…almost as if u are lost in a maze… it frustrates you to the point where you want to pull your hair out…. why is there no way out?

But there is….there always has been… but we are too afraid to take that route…

Afraid of what people might say…

Afraid of the loneliness…

Afraid that you will regret your choices in life..

Afraid that you will be looked down upon…

Afraid of being rejected…

Afraid of not being able to support yourself…

Stop being afraid…

Your future…your happiness….depends on you and only you..

No-one can or will control you.. you will always be incharge of your own happiness.

If you have to fight for someones love and tespect…then their love and respect is not worthy of you.

You deserve better and you will get better.

Leave before its too late.

Nobody is suffering your pain.. no one is lying in bed beside you and comforting your soul.

Today make that decision and stand by it. Be firm that this is what you need.

That you will no longer stand for the abuse…you will not be belittled… you will not take anyones disrespect.

Leave and make yourself happy. Because Allah watches all. He sees the injustice done to you… He is the only one who sees your pain. And He is the only one who will relieve your pain.

Justice will be served.. they will suffer the consequences of their actions. If not in this world, then in the hereafter.

Allah is Most Just!

If Allah rewards us for even the agony from a thorn prick, what then wont he give us for all the oppression, injustice and abuse we have undergone.

My dear sister….you are never alone…

There are so many who are suffering just like you…but together we can help eachother. Ofcourse with none other than the assistance of Allah.

Dont allow yourself to reach the stage that i have…my tears have run dry…my emotions have died completely. I have died completely inside…

But as of today…i choose to be reborn. I will be free inshallah… i will love only those who love me… i will care only about those who care for me…i will do what pleases me(within the confines of what pleases Allah)..

I am what matters…

You my dear sister is what matters.

You have always mattered…

Just because some insecure and immature human has brain washed you to believe that you are nothing…it doesnt mean that its true…

You are a precious life… you are beautiful with all your faults… you should be loved for who you are…not for who they want you to be…

No more tears my dear sister…no more heartaches my dear sister….no more regrets…no more fears…

Just love…happiness…contentment and peace!

You are not alone….




Would like to attend the conference but cant seem to make up your mind?

D-vine treats!(eastrand) has the solution for you!!

We are running a COMPETITION… its THIS simple…

Competition starts on the 11 july 2016 and ends on 17 july 2016…

One lucky COUPLE will receive a COUPLES ticket to Ėthe conference..

Follow the steps below..

1.follow @dvinetreats and @marriageconference1 on instagram all of our marriage conference pictures
3.repost any 1 of our marriage conference pictures on your page
4.tag 3 friends

Just 4 easy steps and you could win 2 tickets worth R500 each to the marriage conference which will be held at the sandton convention centre on the 30th july 2016..

To learn more about the conference or to view ticket info click on the link below…

Or contact…
D-vine treats!(eastrand)

Marriage conference 2016


Time is running out and tickets are getting sold out faster than you can imagine…

Its an event not to be missed..

Book your tickets for the marriage conference which will be held on the 30 july 2016 at the sandton convention centre.

With guests speakers like yasmin mogahed, moulana bham and idrees khamissa, amongst others… who would want to miss out..?

Please click on link below to book your tickets before its too late…

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its all about humanity…

shared by B.Q

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves children with learning disabilities, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question:

‘When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does, is done with perfection.

Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do.

Where is the natural order of things in my son?’

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. ‘I believe that when a child like Shay, who was mentally and physically disabled comes into the world, an opportunity to realise true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.’

Then he told the following story:

Shay and I had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, ‘Do you think they’ll let me play?’

I knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but as a father I also understood that if my son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

I approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, ‘We’re losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we’ll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.’

Shay struggled over to the team’s bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. I watched with a small tear in my eye and warmth in my heart. The boys saw my joy at my son being accepted.

In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay’s team scored a few runs, but was still behind by three.

In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as I waved to him from the stands.

In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay’s team scored again.

Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.

At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game?

Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn’t even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognising that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay’s life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact.

The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed.

The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay.

As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over.

The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman.

Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman’s head, out of reach of all team mates.

Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, ‘Shay, run to first! Run to first!’

Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base.

He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, ‘Run to second, run to second!’

Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base.

By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball. The smallest guy on their team now had his first chance to be the hero for his team.

He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher’s intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman’s head.

Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.
All were screaming, ‘Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay’.

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, ‘Run to third! Shay, run to third!’

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, ‘Shay, run home! Run home!’

Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.

‘That day’, said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, ‘the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world’.

Shay didn’t make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making me so happy, and coming home and seeing his mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!


We all send thousands of jokes through the e-mail without a second thought, but when it comes to sending messages about life choices, people hesitate.

The crude, vulgar, and often obscene pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion about decency is too often suppressed in our schools and workplaces.

If you are thinking about forwarding this message, chances are that you are probably sorting out the people in your address book who aren’t the ‘appropriate’ ones to receive this type of message. Well, the person who sent you this believes that we all can make a difference.

We all have thousands of opportunities every single day to help realise the ‘natural order of things.’

So many seemingly trivial interactions between two people present us with a choice.

Do we pass along a little spark of love and humanity or do we pass up those opportunities and leave the world a little bit colder in the process?

A wise man once said, “Every society is judged by how it treats it’s least fortunate amongst them”.

You now have two choices:

1. Delete

2. Forward

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